My Child Doesn’t Want to Go to the Other Parent’s House After School
What should you do when your child gets in the car after school and says, “I don’t want to go to Mom’s house,” or “Can I stay with you tonight?”
For divorced and separated parents, this situation can feel impossible. You want to take your child’s feelings seriously, but you also have a court-ordered custody schedule you’re required to follow. In this video, the child custody lawyers at Melone Hatley, P.C. explain how to respond when a child resists going to the other parent’s home, how to tell when that resistance signals a more serious concern, and when it may be time to seek legal guidance.
What we cover:
🔹 Start by listening — How to ask open-ended questions and understand what’s behind your child’s resistance without leading them or criticizing the other parent
🔹 Normal reluctance vs. a serious concern — How everyday friction around friends, activities, and household routines differs from potential safety concerns or significant behavioral changes
🔹 Following your parenting plan — Why an existing custody or parenting schedule generally remains enforceable even when your child doesn’t want to participate
🔹 Your child’s age and maturity — Why older children may have stronger preferences, but there generally isn’t an automatic age when a child gets to decide where they live
🔹 Making custody exchanges easier — Practical ways to reduce stress around transitions, schedules, school supplies, and communication between households
🔹 When professional support may help — How child therapy, family therapy, or reunification counseling can help when resistance becomes persistent
🔹 Documenting ongoing problems — Why keeping an accurate record of missed exchanges, conversations, and your efforts to encourage parenting time matters if the issue escalates
🔹 When to contact a custody attorney — Persistent refusal, safety concerns, interference from a co-parent, or a parenting plan that no longer fits your child’s needs may all be signs it’s time to review your legal options
One difficult custody exchange doesn’t mean your parenting plan needs to change. But if the problem continues, understanding your rights before making significant changes on your own is essential.
At Melone Hatley, P.C., we are Your Partner in Divorce®, helping parents navigate child custody, parenting time, and family law challenges with practical guidance and compassionate support across Virginia, Florida, South Carolina, and Texas.
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