Child Custody in Virginia… Can I Relocate Out of State?
Let’s start with a real-life scenario:
John and Susan share physical custody of their daughter, Mary. They live about 10 minutes apart in the same Virginia town, and though Mary’s primary residence is with her mother, Susan, John spends several days a week with his daughter. He goes to her school functions, never misses a soccer game or piano recital, and takes her to church every Sunday. Susan would like to relocate to Dallas. She has gotten a new job there with a larger salary, and she will be close to her parents, Mary’s grandparents, and other extended family. The schools are great and she and Mary will have a higher standard of living there, which will give Mary many more opportunities.
John does not want Susan and Mary to move. He is involved in her life and does not want to lose contact with his daughter for extended periods of time. John feels he is being cut out of Mary’s life and that the move will make it nearly impossible for visitation with Mary to continue.
Custody and visitation
Parents who are separating often wonder whether they can move out of state, and whether they can move their child with them. Whether it’s for a better job prospect, a new relationship, or to have support of extended family, parents need to take extra precautions before deciding whether to make a move following separation or divorce.
In Virginia, if a parent wishes to relocate, he/she must give at least 30-days written notice to the other parent. If your co-parent moves away without giving written notice, they will likely be in contempt of court.
A custody order is not set in stone and may be modified by the court at any time after the divorce. If you share custody of your child with your co-parent, and the two of you can’t come to a decision about relocation, the court will step in and decide with which parent the child remains. In relocation cases, the court is interested in only one thing: whether the best interests of the child will be served by modifying the existing custody order and allowing the relocation. The court does not take into consideration whether the relocation is in the parent’s best interest. The court focuses on these three factors:
- The reason for relocation, including employment opportunities, standard of living, and contact with extended family members, and how it will enrich the child’s life.
- The effect a relocation will have on the relationship of the non-custodial parent and the child.
- How the relocation will affect the non-custodial parent’s visitation with the child.
It is important to note that under Virginia law, the parent seeking to relocate has the burden of proving that relocating is in the child’s best interest. A non-custodial parent who has a positive relationship, is involved in his/her child’s life, and maintains an active, on-going interest has a much better chance of preventing a relocation than a parent who has little or no involvement. It is also important to understand that even if a parent has sole legal custody, that does not give him/her the unilateral right to relocate out of the jurisdiction with their child. The court does not look favorably if it feels that the parent requesting relocation is being manipulative and the move is designed to cut off family members who currently have a legal right to see the child.
If you look at the scenario at the beginning of this article, it is obvious that if the relocation is granted, John will no longer be able to be as involved in his daughter’s life as he currently is. With over 1000 miles between them, he won’t be able to be an active participant in her daily life, go to parent-teacher conferences, attend her games and recitals, or take her to church. Current visitation won’t be able to continue in this new situation.
The court will need to step in and modify the visitation order. The court usually tries to make up for the “lost time” the non-custodial parent now misses with the child. For example, the court may change the order from three nights a week and 2 weeks of summer vacation, to 4 three-day federal holiday weekends a year, plus six weeks of summer vacation, and the winter or spring break. Visitation would be less frequent, but longer in duration.
There are never any guarantees as to what the court will decide. Whether you are the custodial parent seeking to relocate or the non-custodial parent trying to prevent a relocation, the first step towards protecting your rights is to hire an experienced Virginia family law attorney with expertise in custody and relocation matters. Your attorney will work hard to make sure you are treated fairly by the court.
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We know from experience that a successful attorney-client relationship depends on our ability to understand your needs and objectives. For more information about custody, visitation, relocation, and family law, contact our office today at 703.995.9900 in Northern Virginia or 757.296.0580 in Virginia Beach, or visit our website: www.MeloneLawPC.com.